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I will be reading and working this many times over in the years to come. this was one of the most insightful and helpful books I have ever read.
It begins with our childhood, takes through our search for a partner, and guides us with the struggles that occcur on our journey of love. This is followed by a guided search for love.
Richo draws on an eastern concept of mindfulness as he explores each of the five hallmarks. He takes us through the struggles of romance, fear, conflict, and ego and offers valuable insights into relationships.
I found this work to be remarkable in it's approach and insights. The author does an amazing job of helping us see our formative years and the influence that our childhood experiences have on our search for love.
A must read for anyone who is relationship oriented. The approach is very realistic as it explores the five keys to mindful loving.
The book provides a wealth of exercises and discussion points for couples.
Richo, for writing this wonderful book. THANK YOU, Dr. Richo's style is positive, normalizing, free of jargon and babble, spiritual, and very, very helpful.
After a final disaster, I had vowed to just be a happy single - and then I found a relationship that is so precious and spiritual that I wanted to do whatever I could to not just preserve it, but nurture it to grow deeper and more powerful.I went in search of a book that would help me be an adult in my relationship. And not just explanations - those I had in abundance - but practical ideas for how to move through and move past old and new hurts, how truly to GIVE in this relationship. As a psychologist, I KNEW the influence my childhood had had on my relationship choices - the men I chose to be with and the things I chose to do once in the relationship itself.
My partner and I read from this book at least weekly, and the exercises within help us both think about what we do, why we do it, and how to do it differently.Dr. The others are on my shopping list. Almost laughingly, I sought something that would combine my Catholic faith, the tenets of Buddhism that I use in practice and my personal life, and the Jungian philosophies my partner and I both embrace and discuss endlessly.
Never, in a thousand years, I thought, would I find a book that would fit all of those bills.I was delighted to find that in David Richo's book, I found it all.
I have recommended it to some clients, particularly ones struggling with figuring out the boundaries in relationships and between people. I once had a client who proclaimed during a couples session that his/her partner just wasn't providing the Five A's and that was why he/she needed to dump them, which was news to the partner.
Overall, though, this is a book I definitely recommend and even buy for friends and loved ones. Since then, I've learned to suss out where a client's motivation might lie, because anything "good" can be mis-used and made "bad".
I'm echoing some of what others have written, but I think this book was very helpful in my own development from an over-40 single woman to now a very happily married 50-year-old woman. Although I suggest mindfulness and/or meditation to certain clients, too, sometimes it's easier to read about it in a book like this than to take the leap and just arrive at a meditation center for the first time.Of course I have some clients who probably wouldn't do well with a book like this and I wouldn't suggest it to them - either they just don't read much or at all, or it would be something to hit their partner over the head with.
It's one of the best on relationships, for those who can keep the focus on themselves and be honest about their relationships. I am also a marriage family therapist and keep this in my office.
I know there's more to just that in the book, but I think this is one of the most helpful aspects that clients have resonated with (and told me about).I have studied zen buddhism off and on for years and many of the ideas found in that philosophy are encapsulated for a western audience in this book.
Well, I guess people that need something super easy to read have a lot of other books out there that serve them. Many books out there seem to frame everything through the lens of some specific trendy disorder, addiction, or whatever, failing to grasp the larger picture. What higher praise can I give than that.
The ideas that were presented within these simple words, however, were big. This one is more universal in its appeal. I did not encounter the usual frustration that I find with books that are so focused on faddish, simplistic theories that they just aren't helpful.
I liked this book so much that I bought a bunch of copies and gave them out to friends. I found the writing to be quite simple and straightforward, and did not encounter a single word that I didn't know. I might have liked it even better if it were a little more challenging, but I see that you can't please everyone.
It would be a better world if everyone read it and took it to heart.I saw the reviews that criticized the book for being wordy and over the heads of regular people. For me personally, this book gave a higher and more satisfying level of information than was available elsewhere.
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